Wedding Wednesdays: Girls Just Wanna…

Last Week’s Wedding Wednesday Poll Results

Other Than Venue Location what are the other most important factors? 42.86% of all who voted said The food. & The music. And another 42.86% said The food. & The dress. And 14% said The dress. & The rings.

That’s a difficult one. Music is a factor because it tends to set the tone of an event and can create a great atmosphere. Rings are important because you’ll be wearing them every day, for the rest of your lives, still in my mind they’re not a major factor in wedding planning.

But if I had to choose I would probably go with the food and the dress as major factors in wedding planning. You want your guests to like the food. And as a bride when you take that walk down the aisle and all eyes are on you, you definitely want to be in love with your dress!

Aside from Budget the deciding factor for choosing a venue is usually…? 50% answered “Whatever the bride wants based on her style or personality.” LOL. Seems a little bridezilla-ish to me but okay! 17% of you said “The number of and type of guests.” “The couple’s style” and “The couple’s personality” are tied with 16.67% each.

In our case, the deciding factor for Daniel and I was ultimately based on our style as a couple more than anything else. We came to a mutual agreement.

Cara Naan I see your wedding as being…? 33.33% of you said A Destination Wedding. The idea of a destination wedding is appealing to a degree to me but ultimately not my style. There was a three way tie between A Traditional Wedding, A Backyard Wedding, and a Quirky Wedding at 16.67% each. And 17% of votes were for A Mezcla Wedding – A combination of any two of the above.

We’re not having a destination wedding. I would definitely describe our wedding as the best of both worlds. Which two worlds you ask? Time will tell :winks atchu:

 Thank you for reading and for voting! I love to see and share the poll results!!

Girls Just Wanna Whaaaa?

cyndilauperhoneys“I like to refer to them as the Cyndi Lauper honeys. Because they just want to have fun.”

Guess that movie! And don’t google the quote either, where’s the fun in that? lol :sticks out tongue:

In my first Wedding Wednesdays post “First Things First”,  I briefly mentioned the importance of choosing your Bridal Party. Today’s post gets a little more involved.

The old saying goes, “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.” 

Your choice in friends is a reflection of who you Really are. While you may think you and your best friends are total opposites you’re probably more alike than you know. So if you tell me all your friends are thieves, I’m inclined to believe that you have some thief-ish ways about you and I probably won’t leave my valuables out around you…

Once you’ve found your venue and set the date it’s time to choose/notify your Wedding Party.

Things to Consider When Choosing Your Bridal Party

How Many? How many people will be a part of your wedding party. The wedding party includes the Matron or Maid of Honor (sometimes both), Best Man, Bridesmaids, and Groomsmen. When it’s time to decide you may already have a number in mind. But if you don’t know where to start and have no number in mind, theKnot.com suggests you have at least one groomsman and one corresponding bridesmaid for every 50 guests. The Flower Girl and Ring Bearer are also considered part of the Wedding Party.

Who? So who do you invite to be a part of your wedding party? The answer is anyone you want! Although, preference is typically given to close family members first. Still, ultimately, you should not be choosing people out of obligation. Invite those people who bring out the best in you, who you can be yourself with, and who will support you and your marriage journey long after the wedding day has passed.

Why? It’s important to choose the people you want so that you can enjoy the entire experience. For the most part if you’re as important to those in your wedding party as they are to you then they will do everything in their power to shoulder any responsibilities and/or expenses that come with accepting your invitation to be a part of the wedding.

Notification. Once you’ve set your date you want to invite and notify those individuals you would like to be a part of your Wedding Party ASAP! You want these people to have as much advanced notice as possible so they can keep your wedding in mind as they make their future plans. Be up front about any responsibilities and expenses so that everyone is on the same page.

Daniel and I have divided our responsibility to organizing the wedding party in half. I’m responsible for the girls and he’s responsible for the guys. That’s one reason I titled this post what I did.

Obviously, I’m biased but I believe I have the best bridal party ever! They’re perfect for me!! I have already informally asked all of them (Matron and bridesmaids) and they have accepted. However, they also know a more official proposal is in the works.

Cyndi Lauper would tell you that “Girls just wanna have fun.”

Beyonce may say, “Who run the world? Girls.”

And maybe there still exists a widespread way of thinking that suggests that girls spend their entire childhood planning the perfect wedding, and just want to grow up, hunt men all in an effort to win one over, get a nice shiny ring and be financially secure.

But if I had to make a generalization about women based on the ladies who will be in my bridal party I would say that –

Girls Just Wanna Grow Up to Be Kind and Ambitious Women. 

I’m definitely excited about getting together with all the ladies in my bridal party because I know we’re going to have a blast! Do we like to have a good time? Heck yeah!! But there’s so much more to each one of these ladies than just a few good laughs…

Each one of the ladies in my bridal party inspires me in some way! They are some of the nicest, kindest, and wisest people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. They are perfectly imperfect and are candid and transparent. They are funny. They are ambitious.  They are risk takers. They are willing to sacrifice for what they believe in. I have never seen them give up. I’ve seen them get tired, I’ve seen them discouraged, but I have never seen them beaten! And this is just the bridal party! The same is true for of all of my female guests.

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Through the years God has surrounded me with inspiring women! These are my friends, my peers, my mentors, my sisters, women who are young enough to be my little sister and women old enough to be my grandmother and I’m so proud to be associated with them. I can only hope that when those who don’t know me see my friends that they will believe the best of me based on the exemplary lives led by these phenomenal women who are so dear to my heart.

If you’re reading this and you are a woman, I want you to know that whether you are invited to be a physical part of this wedding or not, know that you are still my honored guest even if it’s only via internet.

If you’re a kind, ambitious woman then CHEERS to you! I salute you. And the world is better off because you’re here! 

As women society wants us to be man-eaters, to be in competition with each other, to gossip about each other rather than to celebrate each other and our accomplishments.

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Let’s go against the grain together! If you’re a woman let’s learn what God teaches us about being a lady, a sister, a lover of all and what he teaches us about letting a man be a man. If you’re a man then learn what God teaches you about being a man and how you should treat women.

Here honoring the ladies in my life and all my fellow female pilgrims,

-CN

#NaanButTheTruth

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