There was a time when I was addicted to taking those silly little online personality quizzes…I’m talking before facebook, like this is back in the day (at least for me) even before myspace, back when AOL Instant messenger was the coolness!
I would literally search for them (and by search I mean google “online personality quizzes”). Not that I can remember now but I’m almost sure at one time or other I took one entitled something like “What Kind of Friend Are You?” Obviously I don’t know what the outcome of that quiz was…I don’t even really remember taking it but I’m sure somewhere between the “Are You in Love” quiz, the “Naughty or Nice” quiz the “What Kind of Girl Are You” quiz there was at least one “What Kind of Friend Are You” quiz.
Of course the results of these quizzes are always as general as horoscopes…”You are a good friend…you always listen…in fact you’re such a good friend many people consider you their “best” friend.” Oh my goodness that is SO true! :rolls eyes:
Friends are obviously important, for a number of reasons and society knows that. There are thousands of articles on the 7 types of friends you should have or the 5 Types of friends everyone should get rid of, often types these types overlap or are non-existent in the life of the average person and doggone it who came up with these friend types anyway???
It really doesn’t matter…because “But you gotta have friends” (as Donkey so articulately says in the movie Shrek).
Can you tell I’m a cornball??? Random. Don’t answer that. lol
Over the past couple days I’ve been thinking about ships…friendship, relationship, discipleship…and the list goes on. And I’m wondering to myself “What kind of friend am I?”
Have I been a good friend? What makes me think I have been? And how do I know? If I weren’t me would I want me as a friend?
My honest assessment landed me here…the middle of uncertainty…I don’t know! But I had to have some inkling right??? Right. So I thought even harder…
I have since come to the conclusion that I am a good friend. Could I be a better friend? Certainly. But that will happen as I continue to evolve into a better person.
I’m not sure what the definition of a good friend is…anybody know??? Please share. Teach me! Seriously I want to know.
I’ve decided I am a good friend because I’m there when it matters most. I’m usually poised to listen. If I can do something to help I will.
If you’re looking for the type of friend that’s in communication with you daily or even weekly or even monthly I’m afraid that I won’t always deliver. I’ve tried that and I seem to fail. How important is that to a genuine friendship??? I don’t know. Someone please – Teach me!
Also I think I kind of suck at letting people know how much they mean to me. Sad but true. Like seriously, I only recently became comfortable with saying I Love You to people. My relationship with words and phrases caused me to feel that “I Love You” was a phrase that was overused and so I didn’t want to participate in its abuse so I didn’t say it. Instead I should have been putting it to proper use and allowing people to hear the authenticity of the love that motivated my saying those three words. Did that sound confusing??? Hope you could follow, I apologize if it was too much. Continuing on…
Writing is something I can do, I do it well sometimes and even better at other times and sometimes I just stink because I can’t get past my writer’s block…which hasn’t been a problem these last three days but still…anyhoo sometimes I want to articulate how I’m feeling verbally and the words fail me and then when I turn to writing I become so conscious of what I’m saying that I feel the genuine heart behind it is lost and people are so taken up with the way I said it instead of what I said. Do you understand my dilemma???
Okay. So I have this awful habit of not communicating effectively or often enough. When I get comfortable enough with people I take for granted the fact that they know (or in my opinion should know) certain things and in so doing completely forget that they are not mind-readers and then I tend to become irritated and then I move from irritation to indifference and I can stay there for a while. I’m working on this by the way. It’s quite horrible though, I actually used to start everyone out with an “A” each time they did something shady, sheisty, or suspect they would be lowered a grade and once they flunked out that was it I’d cut them off no qualms about it. Then I realized that wasn’t Christ like. And oh the conviction that set in!
And as much as people come to me for advice (which I’ll give to them when they ask) after a certain age I don’t offer it. My mentality is “This person is grown. They should know better. Right???” Wrong. The reality is sometimes they don’t.
Now, correct me if I’m wrong…like seriously…teach me…but I’m learning that the best friendships don’t necessarily mean that you see each other everyday or even talk to each other every day. And I’m not saying this is true for all friendships or even all my friendships. (Can someone please define friendship for me???) But I can’t help but think there should be a certain level of communication because real friends know what’s going on in each other’s lives right??? Ugh. I don’t know. All I know is You gotta have friends. So how do I make them? How do I keep them? How do I communicate effectively and often enough??? What is often enough? Should you be willing to fight for your friendships? Is every friendship worth fighting for?
And what about this whole issue of forgiveness??? Unconditional love is a part of friendship right??? So if a friend does cross you and hurt you to the core, of course you should forgive??? But can you, should you restore that friendship??? How would you feel if things were the other way around???
I’m sorry that this post seems to have more questions than answers but…I need to know. I want to be the best friend I can be because that’s part of being the best me I can be.
So..Who’s got my answer? Is it you?
Be a friend to me and teach me! If you dare…lol
Have a wonderful day pilgrims!